What exactly is a good relationship? Is it one where there is no cheating, there is respect, the man holds you in high esteem, introduces you to everyone, takes you everywhere, calls every minute, tells you he loves you every time, praises you, makes you feel like you are the most beautiful or the best? Just how true are all those things? After all its just word of mouth, right?
When is it cheating? Is he cheating when he merely admires other girls, thinks of another girl secretly, fantasizes of someone else, have a cyber relationship or in this new age of technology, kisses once or twice here and there, smashes, or just goes all d way. When a gal receives calls from oda guys just for the fun of it, goes 2 d movies with another guy that's on her case, flirts around a bit? When is a partner worthy of being called a cheat? When it happens 1ce by mistake, when it happens only during fights or when it never stops? What den should ‘harmless’ flirting be called?
When does he respect u? When he apologizes every time or just doesn’t annoy you at all? When he doesn’t insult u at all (even if it’s a joke)? When he cheats but doesn’t let it affect ur relationship or when he tells d gals he constantly cheats with that u r No.1. When he sticks up for u amongst his friends. Is he disrespectful when he cuts the fone or tells u he just doesn’t want to talk to u without reasonable explanation or just cos he isn’t in the mood?
What is trust? How far can u go in the name of trust? Would u leave your partner with a sexy member of the opposite sex? Would u check each other’s fones, would u believe everything he/she says not caring if it’s a lie or not. U see calls from and to a particular person, would u just ignore it and keep quiet about it all in the name of ‘trust’.
Is a relationship good when u don’t fight at all, occasionally, or all the time? What if you don’t fight cos u hardly talk, or u fight a lot cos u talk a lot and are running out of things to say. Is it healthy to see others? Is it right for ur bf/gf 2 actually suggest it as a solution? Is it right when the man lies or the woman is forever nagging? What happens when the roles are changed?
What if she doesn’t nag but that’s just cos there is some one else she’d rather be with than nag? Aren’t you fooling urselves then? What if he is just a beautiful liar and you can never tell anyways.
Would a rel8nship be healthy just cos dey don’t cheat? Is love everything? I LOVE U; I LOVE U TOO, is dat enough? Is it wrong when u start to concentrate all ur energy on avoiding fights so much so that there is nothing much to say cos u seem to get on eachother's nerves with every statement.
They say there are a few good men, does that indirectly mean that u should stay in an unhappy relationship. All girls are cheats, “ko si omo mo”, does that mean u should put up with a bitch or a nag just cos the “devil u know is better than the angel u don’t”
What is an unhappy rel8nship? Just when is a rel8nship abusive? If ur man slaps u once cos u annoyed him after a year of dating, is dat abusive? If a woman hits a man, is it still abusive? Is it right when ur bf/gf would rather be with friends than u? What does it mean to take 1 4 granted?
What happens when both the bf/gf think they r each being taken for granted. Who then takes the blame? Should u just not blame n just ignore, how then do you avoid a repetition? Is dere a time talking just stops to help? Is it right when he is just always ready to show that he doesn’t need you?
Is it wrong to love a man that hurts you considering u can’t help urself? Are u stupid just cos u want ur happiness even if its just for a while so u take all the bullshit? Turn a blind eye to a cheating bf/gf? U figure, if u left u’d be sad but if u stayed at least u’d have a few happy moments. But won’t it all get better in time and soon enough? Just how soon is soon enough?
Why should u hurt for as long as a month or even more, is any one really worth all that especially if u had to part ways in the end.
Is it right that ur bf doesn’t get moved by ur tears and u “irritate” him when u beg? If one gal complains of a rude and disrespectful bf, another cries over a cheating husband, one is scared of an abusive bf while another is pissed at a selfish maga and yet another longs for a man that loves another, who exactly is in the worst situation?
If therapists say all these men should be dumped, then just what man would be left for marriage? And even if there a few good men, what happens to the bad ones and worse still, what happens to the women that are way more than the men (especially the good ones). Is it love that makes a relationship work or hard work? Just how much hard work is required to keep a relationship running?
When is hard work too much, when does it begin to take up all your energy? I mean, if there is a part of u dat still wants to make it work no matter how little or weak, doesn't that mean you still have some energy?
The question, people, is “when is it right and on what grounds should you make the decision of whether to go on or move on?”
PS: Please ignore my informality and use of short forms
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