UNSATISFIED SEARCH

What is love? Why do people go from one person to another in search of a supposed soul mate or true love? Does it really exist? That true love we all desperately search for? Why can’t you just find one good person and stay with that person for the rest of your life. And if the thought of being with one person for the rest of your life is simply too daunting, then maybe open relationships and marriages should be the order of the day.

Sometimes, I think our ancient fathers and mothers got it right? The whole idea of picking a spouse for their child therefore avoiding unnecessary heartbreak and sleeping around doesn’t seem so bad anymore.

I mean if my parents had picked out a husband for me and married me to him the moment I turned 18, I wouldn’t have had to meet people just to leave them. I would have killed two birds with one stone, avoid heartbreak and kept my innocence.

But the whole idea of letting us freely choose whom we want to be with has given us the idea that we have to pick the best and perfect hence opening up discontent whereby, good men are not good enough. And the notion of love or true love has eternally doomed us to an unnecessary search for what may just not exist. In the process of this fatal search, we loose our innocence and people who meant the world to us.

In the search for a nonexistent notion, we become old maidens and the irony of it all is we eventually settle for less. That’s how come you find a 40 year old woman finally settling to marry a man who is not even as good as her first boyfriend.

My question then is, if (in most cases) you eventually have to settle for someone who is not even half as good much less close to perfect and whom you are not even attracted to not to talk of being in love with, why then do we deceive ourselves in the beginning by searching for a nonexistent concept.

I think every body is good enough for anybody; all that matters is the determination and will to want to keep the relationship. So, if you find a good man or woman, make extra effort to keep that person. And if you find that you have lost that one good person, well accept your fate and pray that you find someone else half as good. And if you find someone better, thank your God.