“Change is constant; the only constant thing in life is change”. No matter how its put, the point is that nothing ever remains the same. A fetus trying to adapt to the body of its mother is soon pushed out and becomes and infant in a new environment that needs to be adapted to. The infant becomes a toddler learning how to be human, grows into a teenager learning to understand life and then an adult (well, you never really understand life). The water of the sea is constantly moving, the leaves on trees also change season after season, the sands are constantly moved and even the air we breathe is not the same. It is also a proven fact that our body changes overnight as we sleep because the cells breakdown and rebuild every day.
So, in this constant world of change, isn’t it a wonder how we still hold on to love? Every body is in search for that one love that will last forever. That one love which would make you want to spend the rest of your life with one person. I wonder, however, how it is that no one stops to think that the love they so earnestly search for would one day change like everything else in life. Think about it; the recipient of this love would one day grow old and even before then, the character changes, the giver of this same love also changes, the environment in which this love is nurtured changes with season, time and social circumstances. So who is to say that the love itself will be the same?
Which brings me to the bug of all bugs? Does true love change? Now, some might say the love of God does not change… well, I say that is God! Pure and simple. What about the love of our parents? Do they stop loving us? Do we stop loving them? Maybe not. But aren’t there sometimes when your mother just annoys you so much, you almost hate her and when your father disappoints you, you wish you belonged to someone else? And are there not times when our parents expect so much from us and when we fail to deliver, their love diminishes?
Or does it?
Do the brief feelings of admonishment and disapproval reduce or change our love in any way?
The natural answer would be NO. nobody wants to admit that there are times when the love between parent and child reduces or changes.
Why then doesn’t this principle apply to relationships? Why do we find people falling in and out of love? how is it that a man who once meant the world to you is now a merely a name on your contact list? Or that a day which required you to plan months ahead in buying gifts suddenly becomes the day you send a simple text at 12pm saying “happy birthday”? and how is it that even amongst all the break ups, you find the one special couple who remain important to themselves to the end? Does this mean that love doesn’t change and perhaps it’s the people in love that change? Yes? No!
If love doesn’t change, does it mean that people immediately fall in love the moment they meet? Love occurs in stages; from attraction, to infatuation, to bonding and eventually to love. It then means that love also changes. Another point to show that love changes is the saying “there is a thin line between love and hate.”
The irony, however, is that love is the one thing that keeps us all together. We are in a constant state of change. Nothing is permanent except real love, deep love that transcends time and place. Even in its change, love still remains the only constant which serves as the rope we cast to each other to keep from drowning in the sea of turmoil otherwise known as life.
So the answer to these questions is one of two things: love doesn’t change ( which I do not agree with) or 2 being that love, like every other thing, changes but has a constant constituent/form which it keeps despite the change. Sort of like our bodies, the ocean, the atmosphere and the leaves on the trees. Even after change, these things look the same to the naked eye.
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